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My wife and I get into some conflicts every now and then about how much play time I'd like to put in...obviously, the last month or so, I've kinda cut back a bit.
The way I usually frame my side is, "it's not my fault you don't have a hobby but watching TV". It's harsh, yes, but it's 100% true. My identity as a husband is not defined as "entertainment for my wife in her free time". I have a life too, I like to do a few things (game, read, play guitar) and when she gets unhappy about that, I start to feel like all the pressure is on me to make her life better. **** that, not.my.job. She's generally cool, which is why we're together, but there is definitely an issue. It's not necessarily COD, but anything I do. It makes me feel a bit claustrophobic at times, which really pisses me off. I'm 34, get the F off my back and make your own life the way you want.
I like my space, I like the freedom to enjoy my life the way I so choose. I am flexible in the fact that, on the weekends, I often barely game and she gets most of the time. During the week, I'd rather eat dinner and get some game time in. Shouldn't be so difficult, but of course, it is.
Here's my life in a nutshell.
I leave the house at 6am.
I get home from work anywhere between 3:30 and 6pm....emotionally drained most of the time, in dire need of a drink and a jerk.
But I usually get home to her breakfest mess, and kazamer13's breakfest mess. She leaves at 8am, he leaves at 9:30 am. But it's my sh!t to clean up because it's me who has to trip over it for the next few hours, not them.
I get groceries, make dinner, go to the gym, feed and walk the dogs....shovel snow/mow the lawn (depending on the season), and just do all the other day-to-day BS. She comes home anywhere between 7 and 8:30. Right about when everyone is online.
She's exhausted, and by then, so am I.
I'm happy to see her, but my day is done, and she's going to resign herself to watching TV 'till bedtime.
That, for some reason, is acceptable.
Me heading down to game 'till bedtime, isn't....because it coincides with her arrival home.
I mean, I *should be gaming before she gets home, but connections suck even worse and no one is on then. It's pointless.
Gaming is seen, not just by her, but by society in general, as a reclusive, antisocial addiction.
Getting home and immediately turning on the TV, is not.
So, I try to moderate as much as I can....but it's not like we're competing for a room, or a TV.